Taunts Every New Mommy Gets to Listen

Taunts every new mommy gets to listen

When a woman enters the institution of motherhood, there is a whole heap of worries waiting for her. First, the ninth months’ journey with its troubles, ups, downs, highs, and lows, more of a ‘bumpy’ ride. Then comes the delivery process, which is always an unforgettable experience for every woman. Passing these checkpoints, one enters a lifelong journey, which lasts until your final breath called “MOTHERHOOD”.

Lot has been written about ‘all good’ things new mothers experience. Today let us jot down some free-fund k troubles which a new mothers has to encounter, the needless taunts aka ‘taanas’ which almost every new mommy faces after entering into this phase of life. Here is some of these for your sweet smiling tooth. (Let me know if anyone can relate to these 😊 )

1.      Bachay ka SAR Sahi Nahi Banaya Tum Ne?

Seriously!!!??? As if the infant’s head is a GOL ROTI which is supposed to be always GOL otherwise you will be badly judged. It is already made by God, what a mother is supposed to do here? I believe that the shape can be made ‘proper round’ with the help of some infant pillows etc. but try and understand she has just started her journey and has a lot of things to care about as well. Nevertheless, these aunties, I tell you, will never stop bashing.

2.      Bacha Mota Kyun Nahi Hai.??

As if, the mother really does not care about her child. Everyone tries her best to feed their child properly. How can anyone comment on a child’s physique? Rather than focusing on his/her activeness, bacha bechara is always considered adorable if he/she is golo (fat). I do not know who coined this distinction ‘bachay tu motay hee achay lagtay hain’. Every child is equally beautiful.

3.      Malish Nahi Karti Kia?

If someone has a girl child and have a lot of facial hair which is very common and natural then our aunties after giving her mom ‘aye haye bechari’ looks, offers a patent advice that states: Aatay se malish kia karo roz takay abhi hee bal utarjain saray werna pareyshan hugi bad me. God knows what huge damages would be caused by facial hair in her future? HUFFFF…….😬

4.      Rang Kaam Kyun Hai Iska?

OMG 😟 that is INSANE! And here the attacking starts ‘Dodh, dahi theek se khaya huta during the pregnancy tu ye na houta? Souji Khilao colour fair hujaiga’. It is not in anyone’s hand. If the dark colour is genetic factor how can a child look fairer?  Instead of advising something virtuous, everyone becomes self-pro-claimed Zubeida Appa.

5.      Kuch Khaata kyun nahi hai

“Kuch Khaata kyun nahi hai tumhara bacha?? Dhyan kyun nahi deti tum??”  Now out of entire world, mother is one person who would want the most that her baby is well nourished and I believe that nothing would give her more pleasure and relief. A countrywide argument required to sort the matter breast milk vs formula milk. Aside that, my request to MILs and the taunting aunties would be; instead of taunting, please help the new mom with your experience.

6.      Itna rota kyun hai?

I can’t answer that. As little as I understand, babies only feed, sleep, cry and laugh. There can be many reasons why the kid is crying, but at so many times babies just cry. They cry to seek attention, to communicate that they are now up and expect some food or just for the sake of crying sometimes. When there is a baby around, elders are requested to expect some crying sound. Please remember you were also once a baby so cooperate.

The list can go on and on. You may add your experiences in the comments below as there are many more examples of such encounters of new mothers which we witness around us.

My take on all such notions would be that breast milk or formula milk cannot define motherhood. Normal delivery or C-section is not a defining factor. Nor does the skin colour and shape of baby’s head validate it. Motherhood is a life time process from the day woman get pregnant, to entire nine months of pregnancy, from delivery to infancy mess ups, from home schooling kids to sleepless nights for them, from nurturing helpless baby to see them growing up young in front of your eyes. A miss or two cannot undermine the glory and sacrifice of motherhood; it is a lifetime-fulltime job as they say “Motherhood stays alive till you are alive.”

Lot of time new mommies are judged, scrutinized and taunted and most of the time from their very own MILs or close relative aunties etc. Let me tell you being a mother, you do not need any proof, assurance or validation from anyone. The mother is an equal parent to the child (just as child’s father), on lot of fronts she is the one sacrificing more so that her kids prosper. My message to the taunting aunties: Respect the new mother and her motherhood because you are also a member of same fraternity. If you disrespect ‘one’, you give someone else a license to disrespect you.

Kudos to all the super moms out there.

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